You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Believing Old Lies.

Based on the podcast Spiritual Conversation with: Sheila Wenger and host Philipp Kobald

Welcome to the age of curated chaos, where your phone knows your cravings better than your partner does, and your inner child is still waiting for someone to say, “Hey, you’re safe now.” In this week’s episode of Spiritual Conversation, the HolisticCircle podcast that’s quietly becoming a lighthouse for the spiritually restless, host Philipp Kobald sits down with hypnotherapist and parent coach Sheila Wenger — and things get real, fast.

This isn’t your average “light a candle and manifest your soulmate” chat. It’s a deep dive into the subconscious trenches, where trauma isn’t just a buzzword, and healing isn’t a hashtag — it’s a reckoning.

Swipe Left on Your Childhood Wounds

Let’s start with the uncomfortable truth: most of us are walking around with the emotional wiring of a confused six-year-old. That voice in your head telling you you’re not enough? It’s not your intuition. It’s your inner child, still trying to decode why Dad never looked up from his newspaper or why Mom only smiled when you got straight A’s.

Wenger doesn’t sugarcoat it. “The outer is a reflection of the inner,” she says. And if your outer world looks like a carousel of failed relationships, burnout jobs, and existential dread, it’s probably because your inner world is still running on outdated software.

But here’s the kicker: you can rewrite it. Not with affirmations taped to your mirror, but by going straight to the source — your subconscious. That’s where hypnosis comes in. Not the stage-show kind where you cluck like a chicken, but the real deal: guided regression that helps you find the moment the lie took root — and pull it out by the root.

The Cult of Falling in Love (and Other Addictions)

Kobald, ever the charming provocateur, throws down the gauntlet early: “Is anyone even interested in long-term relationships anymore? Or are we all just addicted to the adrenaline of falling in love?”

Wenger, who’s been married for 30 years (a spiritual flex if there ever was one), doesn’t flinch. She calls out the swipe culture for what it is: fast food for the soul. “You can keep chasing the high of new romance,” she says, “but you’ll never get the deep nourishment of being truly known.”

And that’s the paradox, isn’t it? We crave connection but fear being seen. We want intimacy but not the vulnerability it demands. So we ghost, scroll, and self-diagnose instead. We’ve mistaken novelty for depth, and dopamine for love.

Your Trauma Isn’t a Personality

One of the most quietly radical ideas in this episode is that your trauma isn’t your identity. It’s not your brand. It’s not your excuse. And it’s definitely not your destiny.

Wenger sees it all the time: clients clinging to their pain like a badge of honor. “We’re becoming a culture of diagnosis,” she warns. “People are walking around with labels instead of doing the work.”

And let’s be honest — there’s a certain comfort in the label. It gives you a script. A reason. A way to explain why you’re stuck. But it also becomes a cage. Because once you believe you’re broken, you stop trying to heal.

Wenger’s approach is refreshingly unsentimental. She doesn’t coddle. She guides. And what she guides people toward is truth. Not the kind you post on Instagram, but the kind that lives in your gut and changes how you breathe.

Hypnosis: Not Woo, Just Science with Soul

If you’re still side-eyeing hypnosis, thinking it’s all swinging pendulums and past-life theatrics, take a breath. Wenger breaks it down with the clarity of someone who’s seen lives change in real time.

Hypnosis, she explains, is just a tool to access the subconscious — the part of your mind that’s been quietly running the show while your conscious self was busy doomscrolling. And once you’re in, you can find the exact moment a belief was formed. Not in some vague, metaphorical sense. Literally. The moment. The room. The feeling in your gut.

And then you rewrite it. Not with fantasy, but with truth. Because truth, Wenger says, is what actually heals. Not time. Not talk. Truth.

She shares the story of a 77-year-old woman who, after one session, finally let go of a lifetime of people-pleasing and emotional chasing. “I’ve never felt this before,” the woman said. That’s not magic. That’s memory, finally met with compassion.

The Revolution Will Be Inner

There’s a moment in the conversation where Kobald, ever the philosopher in a hoodie, asks the big one: “What happens if more people actually do this work?”

Wenger doesn’t hesitate. “We’d live in a different world,” she says. Not because everyone would be blissed out on mountaintops, but because we’d stop projecting our pain onto each other. We’d stop needing enemies. We’d start having conversations instead of conflicts.

Imagine a world where people actually know what they’re feeling — and why. Where relationships aren’t battlegrounds for unresolved childhood wounds. Where parenting isn’t performance art. Where we stop outsourcing our self-worth to likes, swipes, and algorithms.

It’s not utopia. It’s just maturity. Emotional, spiritual, relational. The kind that doesn’t trend on TikTok but might just save your marriage — or your sanity.

You’re the Captain Now

The episode ends not with a sales pitch, but with a quiet challenge. You are the captain of your own mind. You are the one who decides what apps you open, what thoughts you believe, what stories you keep telling yourself.

And if that sounds terrifying, good. It means you’re paying attention.

Because the truth is, no one’s coming to save you. But someone is trying to wake you up. Maybe it’s your inner child. Maybe it’s your future self. Maybe it’s this podcast.

Whatever it is, it’s time.

Watch the full conversation between Philipp Kobald and Sheila Wenger on the @HolisticCircle YouTube channel. Not because it’ll fix you. But because it might remind you that you were never broken.

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